The most romantic day of the year has come and gone, but I think in the midst of so many events this week it was just a regular day for many. Married colleagues laughed at me when I inquired of their plans, and I heard things like, "Sweetie, we have kids" or "We've been married for 20 years. It's just another day."
One of the volunteers for the mentoring program I help with had a cute story: His grandmother called him on Valentine's Day and wanted to know if he had classes. He was so confused and wanted to know why he would have a day off from school, and she was like, "It's Valentine's Day."
I tried posting on Valentine's Day, but I just could not seem to find the words I wanted--mainly because it was late and I was tired from a long day. I didn't want to aim for a pity post or one that sounded anti because though I may not have had a commercialized holiday, Valentine's Day this year was still pretty special for me.
This time last year I was the big talk of the building as cards, gifts, and two deliveries to my workplace happened during the course of the day. It is amazing how different life can be in the matter of a year...by choice. And, maybe that is my apprehension in posting anything at all. While I say that my singleness is a choice, I don't really feel like welcoming opinions from those around me.
Being single and my age opens the door to all sorts of opinions, suggestions, concerns, and questions. People want to know when I am going to settle down. Others want to know why such a great person like myself doesn't have a special someone. I am told that I am going to meet that Mr. Right VERY soon. Also, I can't forget the people that tell me to hold out as long as possible because married life and commitment ain't all it's cracked up to be. And, I'd be remissed if I didn't mention those that like to give the biblical message of "Ask and ye shall receive" and God has a special plan in due season just keep the faith.
Well, I am aware of all of these things and more. And, my singleness is by choice. I could have had a date or even been married by now, but I have not found "the one." It's not because I am too picky or that there is something wrong with me. Trust me. I don't want to be single forever, but I am okay with where I am for now. I'll also be glad when I do meet a person I desire to spend my life with.
I could tell you I don't have time for a boyfriend. Or, I could give the good old statement about relationships being for the lonely; however, I am a realist idealist (smile). I can be a hopeless romantic with good logic!
So, on Thursday a colleague of mine that's a minister invited me to her church for a dinner honoring single people. The dinner was wonderful and a really nice idea. One of the women's ministries sponsored it. They were servants for the evening and desired to do something nice for those of us that are single. We got some really great gifts, a yummy dinner, and an inspiring message--most of the points I've already hit upon in the blog.
So, here is to being single. What I have come to learn in my years of being here on this earth is there's no greater love than that of God's. The relationship I have gained with Him has helped me in knowing how to love and care for the people in my life. It will also be the foundation for the love I build with the person He brings into my life and for that I am truly blessed.
While the most romantic day of the year has come and gone, love is 24/7, 365 days, 52 weeks (there are 52 weeks in a year, right???). I recognize the love in my life and am loving it! It gets sweeter and sweeter everyday, and no commercialized day with candies needs to occur for me to taste--I mean recognize--it!
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